Show @5 that what @3 is doing is not            '
pleasing you.  Try to maintain the delicate     '
balance of tolerating the behavior while making '
it clear that you expect better.  Over time     '
this balance should shift more and more to      '
showing open displeasure when the behavior you  '
want stopped occurs.                            '
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Displeasure is effective when progressive.      '
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         STOPPING UNDESIRABLE BEHAVIOR          '
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All children respond to the significant people  '
in their lives.  Sometimes this battle is mis-  '
taken by a child for a game that has few real   '
effects.  Letting @5 know that @2 behav-        '
ior has real, serious effects on you may take it'
out of the game category and into real life.    '
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Ask yourself:                                   '
  *  How does this behavior really make me      '
     feel?                                      '
  *  How can I communicate these feeling to     '
     @5 so there is no doubt that I             '
     am serious and will continue to be?        '
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